From: Cal
To: alsrepair@hotmai.com; tylerhoffman9@hotmail.com; danabugsavon@hotmail.com; Dana
Sent: Thu, December 2, 2010 12:12:02 PM
Subject: Re: Would you mind to see that Noelle gets this? I have her address as I wanted to send you, her and JO something but she is pissed at me.
I made a security blanket for Noelle and Dana....... and bought one for Jo after receiving Noelle's address and her reply to how she felt about the way I treated you, I sent to Dana. I am just now copying it to you in case you ever check your mail. hmmmmmm I think I'll copy Tyler on it as well, maybe he checks his email and can give it to you.
I've always tried to be honest w/you Al so as to help you understand your impact on people's lives....... and then this from Noelle? It made me sad that she was so willing to blame me for everything without getting my side?
Here's what I got from Noelle when I tried to connect with her to send her, Jo and Dana some things.
Noelle Hoffman November 28 at 8:22pm Report
I dont know Auntie's address. Mine is 21655 N. 36th ave #132 glendale, az 85308. As far as my dad sending your stuff, I dont wanna hear about that. What you did to him was awful. He took care of you when he did NOT have to. You're very ungrateful. You can send Jo whatever you want but I dont want anything from you. You have become a hateful horrible person to your FAMILY. That is not ok with me. Uncle Brad and Ida are the only people in this whole world that you have left. So I sincerely hope you treat them well.
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I am copying this to Dana as well........
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From: Cal
To: Dana
Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 8:16:27 PM
Subject: Re: Would you mind to see that Noelle gets this? I have her address as I wanted to send you, her and JO something but she is pissed at me.
I ask Al to send me my stuff before I left and then again when I talked to him on the phone. I told him to get a price and I would send him the money???? He told me not to worry that he would bring it at Christmas time and never even looked into sending it as he always has to do things his way. I would have paid up to 500$ but nope, he had to control the situation.
Do you know how many lies your father told me before he finally got rid of me? He lied even when he didn't have to. He lied to Ida and Brad about him getting me here as early as possible. There was only one bus out of Colorado Springs and it was at 9:35 in the morning and he didn't have to lie but he did. (The lie made him out to be a good guy.) OMG!!!
I'm only sad that your mom lived with this for so many years and missed so much of life by being controlled in this situation.
I had written a note to one of my friends before I left your mom's house that my son in law needed an intervention and as God would have it, I was the intervention. He seemed to be waking up a bit but now think he's probably gone back to his old ways. After all, after disowning you to me, he now has you on his side. There aren't any sides, Noelle, when people we love are involved and I never meant to hurt your dad.
It's all I have in the world but after messaging with Noelle, I don't think he'll bring it to me. A lot of it is stuff that Chloe and Connor and I did together, and a lot of it is very precious to me. hmmmmmmm, I guess that doesn't mean a damn thing to anybody but me as you never called or asked about me. (Maybe you did and your dad simply didn't tell me. He did show me some videos and photos) That hurt when there was a photo of you and Patsy and Jo and Patsy's mom on the frig even before I ever met Jo? hmmmmmm
Do you realize the hornets nest that I got myself into when I moved in with your dad? Yes, it was good of him to offer me a place but he used it every which way he could to get his way. I can almost guarantee you that he didn't spend any more money with me there than had I not been there. Ask him. I even used a wash cloth to wipe myself when I refused to ask him for anything.
I loved living with Chloe and Connor and appreciated the fact that I had influence on their lives. Before I left, they seemed to be doing pretty good.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
I wonder what 'Family' means to people?
Who's definition of family are you thinking, Noelle? hmmmmmmm, and I've been oh so mean to your father?
Do you know in all the years I've known your father I have never seen him kiss or hug your mom?
Do you know your mom told me when I moved in with 'your' family that Connor was scared to death of his daddy? hmmmmmmmmmmm
Did you know that your mom and dad lived with me in San Jose when you were first born and again after Tyler's birth? hmmmmmm, isn't that funny that your dad doesn't remember that?
Did you know that before I ever moved in with your 'family' your dad sold my Jaguar? Did you know that he told me he sold the car for 2500$........ Low blue book was 4500$ (I looked it up) and he even finally admitted he pocketed some of the money. hmmmmmm, good way to treat family, eh?
Did you know that Brad had to pay your father a pretty penny for driving the moving van over the grapevine when Brad and his 'Family' moved back to California? hmmmmmmm, and only then after your mother had to beg him to do it? ........and then your father acts like he did all of us a great big favor? Thinking back on it, Brad says that he paid your dad 1,000$. hmmmmmmm, good way to treat family eh?
Do you know that when your grandma Patsy was visiting in Colorado she warned me that Dana should stay away from Al because she wasn't sure what he would do because of his temper?
Did you know that when we first got to Colorado I had 2,500$ and your dad simply walked into my room and demanded 1,500 of it and I gave it to him? This after I asked your father to send Brad and Ida 1,000$ cause they were in deep financial trouble. hmmmmmmmm, and come to find out, when I moved in with Brad and Ida, he kept the money and Brad and Ida never got it? hmmmmmmmm, 2,500$? hmmmmmmm good way to treat family, eh?
hmmmmmmmmmmm
Did you know that your dad said he was done with you when the shit hit the fan with your mom and me? hmmmmmmmmmmm and I talked him into reconsidering? He told me you'd made your decision and it was a done deal?
Did you know that Chloe ran into my room one day for protection when I was living with your dad, after she had been bitten by a dog and your dad was raging thru the house after her? Great way to treat family, huh?
Did you know that Connor went into dissociation after seeing your father abuse Sadie, choking her and throwing her out the door? hmmmmmmmm, great way to treat the family. (I stepped in and tried to soothe the ruffled feathers of your dad.)
Did you know, after I broke my arm your dad (his words) beat Gracie so bad he didn't expect Gracie to live?
Did you know that Chloe saw Alfred hang Bella up by the throat and beat her and Chloe dissociated and cried in my arms?
Did you know that Tyler moved over to your mom's for 3 days after your father threatened him as Tyler was afraid of your father's rage?
I talked to Tyler the day he came home to pick up more clothes and talked him into coming back and trying to help me teach your dad about love.
Did you know once when I overheard your dad say something about 'killing her', I asked if he was talking about Kim and he said NO, he was talking about Dana and how it would be very easy to have it done. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, great way to treat my family, eh?
Did you know that once, when you and Tyler were very little and I was in the car with your dad, mom and you two, that your dad pulled right in front of a tanker truck filled with gas? We could have been killed as the truck barely missed us? Great way to treat family, eh?
Did you know when you were a little bitty baby (maybe 2 months) your dad used to throw you up in the air and your hair actually touched the ceiling. hmmmmmmmmm, great way to treat family, eh?
I finally took your mother aside and told her unless she told him to stop, and something ever happened to you, I would press charges?
Did you know that last time your grandmother Patsy was visiting she was in tears because I talked to her a lot about what I've just shared. She had hung those family pictures and said she just simply did it. Did you know that if your mother or I had done it, your father would rage and probably have broken each and every one? Patsy seemed to understand.
Did you know that your mom and dad and Patsy all wanted me to get my Social Security. Your mom wanted it to help me be independent and your dad wanted me to get it so he could have it?
Did you know that one day your dad was playing one of his head games and sent Chloe into my room and tell me he had no money and that he wanted to take the kids for a treat. (I had 2 of SS checks and he knew it.) I gave Chloe 7$ in change and I found the change after they left. After that he had Chloe pick up the change all over the house and put in on the counter in the kitchen for him. (I'm sure he didn't want the change to use, he just wanted to control every penny.)
Did you know I talked to Lesley Chambers and she said she never told your dad she would move in with him. hmmmmmmmmm, I visited her home and her home was way nice and she seemed very happy. Did you know that Lesley said she had blocked your father from her daughter's Facebook. hmmmmmmmmmm way to treat people, eh? Oh, yeah, btw, your dad told ME that Lesley was going to leave her husband and bring her 4 kids and move in with him. You know me, I don't lie and he really did tell me that. I think he was trying to torment me with Lesley the same way he always tormented your mom with her. hmmmmmmm, way to treat MY 'Family', ey?
Noelle Hoffman November 28 at 8:22pm Report
I dont know Auntie's address. Mine is 21655 N. 36th ave #132 glendale, az 85308. As far as my dad sending your stuff, I dont wanna hear about that. What you did to him was awful. He took care of you when he did NOT have to. You're very ungrateful. You can send Jo whatever you want but I dont want anything from you. You have become a hateful horrible person to your FAMILY. That is not ok with me. Uncle Brad and Ida are the only people in this whole world that you have left. So I sincerely hope you treat them well.
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Liby Anderson November 30 at 8:59am
http://cal4peace.blogspot.com/p/httpwww.html
This blog is about facebook being shut down and nothing more. look if you like and don't if you don't wanna. Thx. for the address but it looks like none of you will need anything from me so won't send to your mom or to you, or to Jo.